My DB journey thus far

[SteveLW]

greenman, I know you've heard this before but want to reiterate. The WAS will usually agree, and sometimes even suggest, MC. Why? Are they really ready to commit to the marriage? No, usually it is so they can check it off the list.

"Yep, we tried everything, even MC!"

You do not use MC for the WAS to recommit to the MR. After the WAS recommits to the MR, MC can be a useful tool to work through the previous existing issues.

I would avoid MC at this point like the plague until you are sure she is recommitted back the MR.

I know the next question, when will you know? You WILL know. It will be unambiguous. It can't miss it. There will be no doubt about it.