Trying to heal from WW - part 2

[Ready2Change]

i think I let my emotions take over sometimes.

Learning to completely control my RESPONSE to my emotions is part of the growth I went through as well as making rational decisions based on logic. For example, I used logic to behave differently. Trying things people recommended here vs doing what I felt like doing. Breaking out of my old behavior and behaving the way I KNEW I should.

I crashed a bit when WW called me crying and telling me she misses me, etc.

Did you practice validation? This is a perfect example of a positive change that may not be natural. Us men are usually fixers vs listeners. Even in this situation, You have many choices on how to behave/respond/interact. When you are detached, it is easier to say things that may get a positive response from her. It is even easier when you have multiple women pursuing you.

"I can understand (or see) why you miss me. Too bad it didn't work out." (Confident validating her feelings but not pursuing)
"How about you come over and show me how much you miss me" (Insinuating some sexual act)

There are 100's of ways to respond. Which ones are the most effective for a certain sitch? Who knows. How do you test them? The best I found was to see what was working for others and try those.

I never really dealt with my issues for most of my life,...Had to face myself sooner or later though in order to grow and become a better person so im grateful to have the time now.

We all have issues. I committed to personal growth. There is always room for improvement.