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Ruining a possible reconciliation

Here are the facts:

1) In August 2019, I got the BD. I discover WW is having an EA. I beg/cry/plead with her to stop the EA and come back to our marriage, but she adamantly refuses, and she moves out of our home.

2) After 2-3 months of doing everything I'm not supposed to, I start pulling back, and I employ the last resort technique.

3) After another 2-3 months of that, I see she's still talking to the OM, so I decide to step it up and go dark (the "after the last resort" technique).

4) After going dark for 2 months, I contact her asking if she'd like to go to dinner with me. She accepts, we have an amazing time at dinner, we go back to my place, and we end up talking for 4 hours and we ultimately have sex. She tells me she's no longer talking to OM, that she misses me, and that she's very sorry for everything.

5) A couple of days later, I reach out to her to ask if she'd like to have dinner again. She declines, apologizes for sending me mixed signals, and says that she had a lapse in judgment. I foolishly try to reason with her about why having another dinner would be a good idea, and I impulsively call and text her (exactly the opposite of what I'm supposed to do). She, of course, maintains her cold and distant stance, and refuses to see me again.

6) Since then, we have had very little contact, mostly about the dogs we share. Every now and then, she asks me if I'd like to go to dinner as friends, and I decline. Recently, she brought me some cupcakes for no reason (left them at my house while I was out). I did not respond or engage with her about the cupcakes.

7) I've realized now that the person I fell in love with is gone, and I've decided to move on from this.

Last edited by job; 03/26/21 08:17 PM. Reason: added link to previous thread