Trying to heal from WW - part 2

[Ace_32]

All good man. I remember you mentioning that, and yeah my situation also had a bit of that dynamic to it as i would try control the finances and everything for the first few years. You say that you thought you were in love, was it just infatuation and you realised this later on? I wasn't as in love with her the first few years as she was with me but over time i did fall in love with her. At least you got of the roller-coaster, i wasnt smart enough or aware enough to do that haha.

My W wasnt in the party girl mode when we met and it seemed like she wanted what i wanted and to settle down and build a life together, but over time she started wanting to party more and it wasnt really what i wanted. I tried to compromise but it was never enough. She is also a very attractive girl, but it drove me crazy how she would take 3 hours to get ready and take like 100 selfies everytime we went out somewhere. I think she was a bit insecure and craved attention and validation. It must be tough to stop drinking and socialise, i guess the people we should want to meet you wouldn't find at bars or out drinking. I met W at a bar.

I think age isnt a major deal when you are a bit older, say i met her when i was 34 and she was 26 i dont think it would have been as much of a problem. I agree that looks shouldnt matter that much, but i would definitely need to find someone attractive to want to pursue them.

Im kind of coming out of the fog a bit lately i think, kind of just accepting the situation and wondering if i even actually want to see her ever again. I do forgive her and i understand that she is just a damaged and lost person at the moment but i dont know if i want to be associated with someone who can do this to someone they committed to spending their life with. Emotions change often but thats how im feeling at the moment.