DBX80, I love that so soon after revisiting these forums, you're beginning to step out of the limbo you've been in for a year. Maybe you were already feeling ready--and that's what led you to return.
Originally Posted by DBX80
What would I do if she stops by and I'm at the house? Do I talk to her? Ignore her? Be friendly? Be cold and distant? What if she tries to engage me in a conversation? What are the boundaries for DB'ing in a situation like this?
Avoidance is a first, positive step for many--because they can't keep themselves from peacocking or getting angry! No to "ignore", "cold", or "distant". Think friendly cashier mode. Many of us exchange kids. It's a friendly smile and a wave. Sometimes a few words. Maybe a longer update if there's pertinent medical info--"He has.. flees. I've given him Anti-Flea 3x per day".
My ex never goes in my home. That would seem to allow her to invade and keep tabs on your life--creepy! I also don't know why she'd visit your place 2x/week. Usually, a mid-point is more fair to both parties, or taking turns depending on who is picking up or dropping off.
