So based on that let me ask you, are there any benefits that your WAS still receives by being legally married to you? Health insurance? Are you paying for anything for her? (Cell phone, car insurance tend to be the big 2.) If so that should tell you all you need to know as to why she isn't moving forward with a D.
No, she has her own health insurance, and I'm not paying anything for her. I suspect the only reason she hasn't filed for divorce yet is because doing so will require us to split the dogs, which neither of us really wants to do. Not only would we be separating two dogs that are bonded to each other, but we'd both be losing all contact with one of the dogs, too. Of course, it will have to happen eventually, but I think it's something we're both struggling with, because the thought of never seeing one of the dogs again is heartbreaking.
