So sorry for your loss GB...and for your mom’s dementia. I know first hand how difficult it is to care for a parent whose faculties are failing them. Very stressful and worrisome. I am glad you found somewhere will she be cared for and safe.
Re: dating. I don’t think you are old school, I think you are discerning. I’m with you on the not wanting to get naked with that many people. Honestly...if that is someone’s expectation right off the mark, they aren’t worth your time. I don’t think everyone is like that though so I don’t know that I would completely give up on it. I’d just keep an eye out for someone really interesting and try to get to a meet up fairly quickly to minimize the back and forth messaging which can be quite time consuming and deceptive. There is nothing like a face-to-face meeting.
Hope this week is more relaxing for you. (((HUGS)))