Thank you all. I have been a passive participant in my life for too long. This is one of my issues I'd like to improve. It felt great to just decide I wanted something and go ahead with it.
Great goal!
Originally Posted by mako
She was not upset with this, and seemed agreeable pretty much right away. But at first she said that we are moving towards being two households and we should keep that in mind as we help the children transition, which seemed cryptically against it.
Will she stay in the house full-time, or will she continue to alternate weeks?
Originally Posted by mako
I *wanted* to say that D is also not great for the kids so that concern feels hollow if you aren't willing to work on the M. What I *actually* said was I agree those are important considerations but I think they will be fine with this, and whether their transition starts now or a few months from now will be meaningless in the grand scheme of things.
Very true. If the best interest of the kids were her real priority she wouldn't be divorcing and breaking the family apart - she would commit herself to working out the issues in the marriage - in reality she's being selfish. However, you handled it as this board would advise. In my own sitch, I said something to the effect of "you're worried about the kids getting anxiety because I don't want them to have chocolate for breakfast (kids' nutrition was an issue in our parenting), yet you're going to divorce me and split our family apart?!?". While it didn't make any sense logically, it also didn't help one bit or change a thing for me to make the argument.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
