Steve_letting go part 3.

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Even the Bible quote people like to point out in it's whole context isn't about a wife becoming completely submissive to her husband it asks that both the husband and the wife defer to each other.

The sermon we read at my wedding had to do with this. The husband is the roof who protects the wife and shelters her, but the wife is the base upon which the roof is supported. Our priest really put it into a great perspective for today.

As far as gender roles being a social construct, I take that to mean that gender roles are an idea that has been created and accepted by society. I don't see that as good or bad in itself. I do think that those gender roles exist because, in science we have learned that form follows function. And to me that sounds so much like the roof and the foundation both contributing to a mutually beneficial relationship.

I can see the majority of women not wanting a stay at home man and I have no way of proving that. I don't think you undo thousands of years of evolution this quickly if at all. I think the term "masculine" has more than a touch of stigma right now and we are all better served by detaching and thinking logically about our issues. However I don't think these are the real issues here. The real issue is someone who could do all the things his W has done and a person who would keep taking her back both have issues they need to tackle.