Ruining a possible reconciliation

[mako]

It seems strange to me to say, on one hand, that marriage is just a piece of paper and dating is fine, but on the other hand to say filing means you gave up on the M.

I used to think the same and didn’t want to file, that i was giving up. Then I decided that was silly, it was more important to move on, and getting the D was a necessary step. I didn’t give up on the M, but you have to be realistic too. And nobody wants to date someone, seriously at least, who’s been separated for years with no D plans.