However, I think this really highlights the problem with this forum. I asked what I thought would be a really simple question: Should I say thank you or not? And here is a sampling of the answers I received (paraphrased, of course):
LH19: Nothing you do matters! [I would call this the nihilist approach, lol] CWarrior: Say thank you, but only if you want more cupcakes in the future! [the utilitarian approach]
DBX80, in my message I said in-line with LH, "I highly doubt your choice will have any appreciable effect on your marital situation." On saving marriages and ourselves, I believed there's more consensus. On etiquette and who we want to be as people, I believe there's more divergence--e.g., kindness vs authenticity, traditional vs modern roles, or COVID. That's to be expected in a forum that crosses countries and politics, no?
