You were married (or at least together) 13 years and if I'm doing my math right it's been over a year and a half (20 months) since bomb day?
What's the latest with your sitch (besides the dog and cupcakes)? I assume she's not living with you, but last we knew she was in a hotel? Did she rent an apartment, buy a house? Are you still married? Has either of you filed for divorce? Have you dated anyone else? What are you doing to improve yourself? What are you doing for GAL?
Yes, together for 13 years, and the bomb dropped over a year and a half ago. She moved into a rented apartment last year, and yes, we’re still legally married. Neither of us have yet filed for divorce. I have gone on a few dates here and there, but nothing serious. The best way I can describe it, is that I’m now living my life as if she had passed away. I know that’s a bit morbid, but it’s how I can best wrap my head around what happened. The person I fell in love with no longer exists. I think I was going through the various stages of grief for a long time, and now I’ve finally come to a kind of acceptance. She’s gone, and there’s literally nothing that can be done about it. So I’ve stopped giving it any of my energy anymore.
The cupcake thing was strange to me, but I wasn’t thinking “oh now she’s coming back!” Lol. My only question was about whether to say thank you or not, because I didn’t want to be a jerk about it. I believe you should be able to DB without being a jerk.
