This site is not just about attempting to save a marriage, but to save you, the LBS. No one promises a poster that a marriage will be saved, but you sure as heck have a 50/50 chance of: 1) saving the marriage or 2) saving yourself in the process and moving forward to reclaim self and learn about yourself so that the same mistakes aren't made a second time around, if you so desire to remarry, etc.
I find it interesting that you've not started a thread of your own so that others can learn from your life's story. When we read about the life stories of others, we can also not only help each poster to find their footing once again, but we learn to share and help one another walk the path and sometimes, we can learn how to cope from those other life stories. We share adventures, self help stories and yes, even movies, books and hobbies that may help others.
Again, this site is about learning and exploring outside our comfort zone. It's not just about saving a marriage...but about saving a person and regaining their self worth and respect for themselves as well as others.
I'm sorry you feel the way you do, but I do have to wonder what triggered your creating a thread now. What happened?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
