You imagine it taking months and months of dating to find a decent guy.
Do you know what you’re looking for? In online dating, a study found one inch (5’8” -> 5’9”) to be worth $40,000 in income for a guy’s desirability! Our default feelings can be shallow. I think I’m honing in on my values in a partner: determination, loyalty, family-focus, good sec—and what else must be present (6+/10 attractive, emotionally stable, feel good around them, bring out my good side). I hope this helps me override chemistry a bit and be slower to lock in someone hot without these attributes, or give a second and third date to someone not as hot who fits all of them.
