I agree with your first point, disagree with your second and third point and as for your 4th point, I’m just a man like you who got my world flipped upside by the person closest to me.
I don’t think the site is wrong I just think people have a difficult time following advice because the majority is counterintuitive. They also don’t have the knowledge I have in six years of reading books, listening to podcasts and being on this board. Your statement of it can never be better is not true. I still believe in recons but I truly believe that has to come way down the road after years of life apart, reflection, healing and therapy. Until then you remove them from your life as soon as possible which may include a D.
I do believe if you follow the advice here, drop the rope and go and live an amazing life everything else will work itself out.
