Following up from my other post

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Jhopeful,

Just read your thread and wonder if the background got glossed over a bit...

She was married for 10 years and got divorced aprox 2 years ago - she said the relationship was over about a year before that. She left him and may have gone on dates or slept with someone before the divorce was final. Her ex shamed her all across town. More on him later

She was married for a decade, had an affair, and divorced her husband? How much of that story do you really know vs. what she told you? Food for thought...my W had an affair with a married co-worker with 3 young daughters. When it ended she started dating OM2, filed for D and moved out and moved him in. How accurate of a story to you think she's telling OM2 (or her family and friends for that matter) about our situation? My guess is she's telling him every bad thing she can exaggerate or make up to make him feel better about the situation of...her being married. I bet he think's I'm a jerk and she hasn't filled him in on the details of her affair. Is it possible your W had some major issues and wanted you to think that she was the aggrieved party?

We met on a bus in Mexico in Jan 2017...

When I returned back to the US in march we started long distance dating. It was fun and light. We met in different places across the country about 5 times.

Then in September she told me that she wanted to move to Colorado to be together. At first I was apprehensive and told her I needed to think about that. Then after some thought I said yes.

She moved out in January2018

Not sure I'm getting the timeline right, but it sounds like you met on a vacation, dated long distance with a couple meet-ups, and then she quickly wanted to move out to CO with you, which you were hesitant about. Were things moving too fast? Was she love-bombing you?

Leading up to Poppy's brith I stopped having sex with her. I think the stress got to me. Unfortunately our communication wasn’t strong enough. Additionally she never made any real advances towards me.

Seems like things weren't good between you before your kid was born?

I did feel like I was living in Josh’s shadow. She often would say that I was controlling, her BF told me once that she felt that she never worked through that relationship.

Seems likely. She was married ten years and dated someone quickly before she was divorced (or very possibly was having an affair) and then moved out to live near someone she met on a vacation. Doesn't sound like someone who was working on herself to process the decade long marriage.