I’m sure there were times you didn’t treat him as well as you should have.
But did you abuse him physically and emotionally and scare his child?
Not comparable at all unless you were actually abusive to him.
You hang on and answer calls because those abused are scared of the repercussions if they don’t .
You are still scared of him.
Oh, and why should he be forthcoming of what his plans are with OW? Why should he tell you the truth? That’s his life now and he doesn’t want to discuss that stuff with you. And you shouldn’t want to discuss it with him.
You last 10 years are not negated. They really happened, you were really married and you were really abused by him.
And going forward, you are no longer together and your future is independent of each other. No reason to discuss his future plans with OW or your future plans on your own. Your lives are now completely independent of eachother. Which I think is a fantastic thing for you, but you keep that connection going. And hopefully one day you can let it go.
