One foot in front of the other

[SteveLW]

My only add to what DnJ said is that while forgiveness is not earned.....it should be sought. It is impossible to forgive someone that doesn't want to be forgiven. For instance, physical abusers, you cannot forgive them while they are actively continuing to abuse you. BUT, if they stop, change their ways, and get the help they need to stop......then you can CHOOSE to forgive them. But as DnJ says, that doesn't earn them forgiveness. (I could interject with Jesus and forgiveness of sin here, but I think you get the point!)

Elbereth, again, I love that you are taking it slowly. These situations didn't occur overnight, they are never resolved overnight either. Just keep focusing on you, go out and live that awesome life you deserve to be living, and let the chips fall where they may.