Nick, you seem to like to argue. Even when the other party has no skin in the game, is telling you objective truths, and is in it for nothing more than trying to help you. So what is your goal posting here? To argue? To journal? To brag? To gain insight? To seek help to get through this and become a better person?

Help us help you.

Also, your fixation on this OM is unhealthy. Believe what you want (if it wasn't him then she would still be totally faithful to you and committed to the marriage....yeah right), but if she were open to it with him, she would have been open to it with someone else. You act like this is the only guy on the planet that your W would cheat with. That is a statistical impossibility. Your years as a detective should let you see that objectively.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018