What still compels you to answer his calls? I get why he's calling--he's having big feelings and doesn't know how to self-soothe. In the past, he's relied on abuse, road rage, and venting to you. He may not want to show that side of himself to OW. You say you "caved", but what were you feeling that made you answer?
Originally Posted by KitCat
I tried to sit and quietly state "I understand, I hear you, I respect that".
What were you feeling that made you keep listening? If my ex-wife called at 4am I might answer to see if her house burned down, but I'd be extricating myself soon after.
Originally Posted by KitCat
He went on with this deep fake laugh "Why would I ever make that stupid mistake again?" I just dropped it.
That sounds disrespectful--a good opportunity to hang-up.
Originally Posted by KitCat
BUT, what has he done in efforts to be "friends"? NOTHING.
It sounds like you're realizing what you two share is not a friendship. I suspect your interactions (puppy care, venting) would not be at a balance point even if he cleaned the gutters? My ex-GF had someone who regularly vented to her, but the venter always provided nice meals and drinks in exchange.
