Having my thoughts, feelings, and opinions "count."
Respecting my time - whether that means not being late for things or me being able to do things without guilt trips.
Essentially it is coming up with boundaries and enforcing them on my part.
That sounds like a pretty "textbook" answer....
Then you hit on this...
Originally Posted by SaltyDog
Originally Posted by Mach1
Why, exactly, do you "deserve" a certain treatment ?
I think if you are going to be open, vulnerable, and honest with someone you deserve the same in return. And if they can't do it you are free to stop being open with them or free to leave.
Of course I say all that while dealing with my current situation. But I am mapping out my boundaries now - for both my personal and professional life.
IF.....
IF you are going to be open, vulnerable, and honest.....then you have "earned" the right to be treated with the same in return.
The word deserve has always bothered me. Like it is an inherited entitlement to be a certain way or to expect certain things without putting in the work to earn something.
deserved; deserving
Definition of deserve transitive verb
: to be worthy of : MERIT
deserves another chance
What strikes me most, is that it is a verb. It requires action to achieve this...
I'm not asking you this to rile you up, or make you feel like schidt......
Yet I will ask you the same questions again....
How do you deserve to be treated ???
What does that look like ?
Why, exactly, do you "deserve" a certain treatment ?
Go deeper within yourself for those answers Dawg....
What have you done to deserve the treatment that you seek ????
