One foot in front of the other

[Oceangl]

Just piggybacking onto the others advice here, it is very personal whether you file or he does. It is so subjective depending on your situation. Did you say you had a consultation with a lawyer yet? I can't remember. I had one and it gave me such peace of mind. The L was able to walk me through the process and my options, etc. Much depends on your state. In my state, we have the option of doing a divorce through a collaborative process. Each party has a lawyer to guide and advise, but also a neutral financial facilitator and a neutral facilitator who helps make a parenting plan and helps with decisions on things other than financial. So find out all your options.

For me in the end, standing up for myself meant telling him that I did not want a divorce, I believed that we could have a happy future together if we were both committed to it, but I also would not allow him to treat me like a roommate, etc. That the way he was treating me was not acceptable.

In the end, I told him if he wanted this divorce so much he could file for it, and that's what ended up happening. But where I live, with the process we chose, it doesn't matter who does the filing.

I'm sorry, I know this is not an easy path. xo