Moving forward with my life

[Oceangl]

KML - thanks for all your thoughts. I live in a state where things are divided 50/50. We also have an option to divorce through a "collaborative" process. So we each have a lawyer to guide us, but there is also a neutral financial facilitator and a neutral facilitator who guides us through making a parenting plan and covering the non-financial areas. It makes the process shorter and less expensive.

I am just learning about my best options. Trying to sort through it and figure out in the long-term what is best. Today is a hard day (it seems like it always is when he returns from out of town), and trying to process this experience and all the decisions is not easy. Perhaps because I am more at the beginning of it. We bought our house on a short sale, and it is not too far from being paid off. So I need to look at all the options and figure out the wisest.

We have not told our kids yet still. I want to do it sooner, but he wants to wait until he knows exactly what is going to happen and what it will look like. That's really hard on me. I want to do what is healthy for my kids, but I also want to make sure my own emotional health is important also. I mean, the whole thing is awful no matter what. There's no real way to pretty it up.

Thanks for all your thoughts.