Best friend for 27 years in MLC part 2

[SteveLW]

One thing I've learned in my 2 sitches (12 years apart), is the OP DOES NOT MATTER. Could be the next door neighbor, could be the man in the moon. We LBSs fixate on the OP and like to let them be the manifestation of all of our grief, anger, resentment. After all, we hate the OP, but still love our WS.

Fact is that if it wasn't HS BF, it would have been someone else. In my first sitch, my W's EAP was a BF from Jr. High School. Her second one 12 years later was some loser unemployed, once D'd, excon several states, and 900 miles away that she met through an online singing app. The OP doesn't matter.......