Steve_letting go part 3.

[MrBrside]

Steve,

I find your recent update upsetting. IMO it shows everybody here what kind of person you really are and where your priorities lies..

So I figured wth, I got nothing to lose

You are right.. Self respect means zero to you..You have none.. and your WW has no respect for you so what did you have to lose ?

Even the children knew that mom was going to go visit daddy on friday.

Point proven - enough said.. Poor parenting and i'm reigning myself in when i only use these words. Thiking of yourself and not the children or what they must be thinking.

Selfish & Manipulative.. With two very messed up and selfish parents, i feel for the children..

(I knew there would be an excuse, a change of plans, a something in advance).

And yet your children knew "mom was going to visit daddy" - Was it you who told them ? Was this more manipulation on your part as you knew WW may not show up.... So you could guilt trip WW if she cancelled - "oh the children will be disapointed, they know your are coming!"

"I made this plan with you a week ago, the kids were not invited since it was a date, I didnt put time into a nice wine, dinner and desert to spend it with kids).

Dad of the year comment there. You spend time and money sorting out your place for WW, who
1) - manuipulates you
2) - Cheats on you
3) - Ignores the children
4) - Uses You
5) - Is a nasty piece of work....

But then have the audacity to comment about not spending time with the kids.

Poor Poor Poor children.

Did it ever cross your mind about how your could have used that time / money spent on wine and desert etc with the children, you may actually appriciate it ? - Doubt it !

Yes big backslide I know I F'd up. Wont happen again.

It will - You are like the addict who's sole focus is the "fix"..

My focus on these sitchs is always kids kids kids...ALWAYS

You have the worse WW i have ever seen on this board... But at the same time, your actions are the most selfish i have seen from a LBS - You are so 1 sighted, you fail to see what everybody else does - You have 1 focus and everybody and everything else including your children are not considered when you act on emotions.

Re pickups.

You will ignore, but my arrangement is that the custodial parent drops off.. Never collects.

This reduces hanging around and the need to go into the WW house. I drop my children at WW's and never leave my car. I kiss them goodbye and drive. ZERO interaction with WW..

When she drops off at mine, she does get out of the car, she does walk them to the door, but i dont speak to her / see her. My boundary which i have never broken is that she never ever steps a foot into my house. It works well and there is no interaction.

I doubt you will enforce such a thing, as you will find an excuse not to.