Thanks for the responses guys. SD i do realise its a big blessing to not have had kids with her, that would have made this so much worse. I cant imagine how tough it must be when there are kids involved. Changing my mindset is the most difficult thing i have ever tried to do, i fixate on things as if thinking and worrying about everything will somehow make things better which it never will. All it does is burn me out and make me constantly anxious. Glad to hear you are making progress on that, im tired of getting knocked around as well.
Steve, i have kept up to date with your situation. I know my situation hasnt been as bad, but i can relate to you and your way of thinking of things. Its good that you reached that point now, i need to get there soon and hopefully i will.
Me 32, W 24 T 6, M 3 No kids BD: Aug 2020 OM: Jan 2021 Wife to file soon