Like he was right, there really is something wrong with me. No one has wanted me or committed to me in 13 years.
Ginger, I see strength, loyalty, and compassion. You stood for your marriage. You're a nurse during a pandemic. I'm in the male/40s demographic and those are very attractive qualities. What's "wrong" is you're content with who you are and are awaiting the right person. You obviously could've settled quicker.
Originally Posted by Ginger
I was going through my past encounters relationships, and I was pathetic. Never really respected myself. I refuse to ever disrespect myself again.
I feel that from experience. I would hope older, wiser me would instantly discard some past matches.
Originally Posted by Ginger
OTOH, I am just so craving companionship and intimacy, I might be willing to sacrifice some of my utter freedom for the right guy. But wow, I realize it would really have to be the right guy.
I wonder how one knows if they met "the right guy" or "the right gal"? It would seem hard to assess anything beyond attraction, pet peeves, and common interests in a 30-120min date, barring some faux pas such as being rude to a waiter or telling you about a recent misdeed. Fast forward 4-6 dates and you're often in pretty deep. I've relied on "chemistry" in the past, but I'm not so sure that's a good gauge anymore. I'm not dating yet but I'm asking questions, considering the values I seek in a partner and how I would even spot "empathy, determination, sensuality, loyalty."
