I have a feeling that he may have doubts about whether he wants to go ahead with the divorce. I want to continue with the divorce (as said, financial security + peace of mind for children), but at the same time I also want to make it clear to him that I want to be there if he is working on himself. (but you cannot say that explicitly ... or they run again ... ;))
Eagle3, I haven't read your whole situation, so please take this with that grain of salt. Are you saying if he expresses doubts and works on himself you're willing to wait for him, or you're willing to be there as a friend? If the former, have you considered a post-nuptial agreement? I have no experience, but some others here have done that. It spells out what happens if you get divorced, so you lock in that safety net, without stepping fully away.
