I did what she asked, I showed up, and it basically called her bluff.
Many of us try what our ex asks us to do, to salvage a broken relationship. It's rarely as effective as DB'ing, but "trying it their way" (when it's not outlandish) can leave you with a calm that you tried everything. I at least don't entirely regret that I tried for a time exactly what she said would lead to a happy us.
Yup! It is a box we checked, and that at least gives me some solace. And I could see how what I was doing did put some chinks in her armor and got her second guessing, but in the end she was just buying time. She knows what she would need to do if she were to want to work on "us" but in the meantime I'm done being the only one showing up.
