Thanks, it's a start. Some of that - like asking how she's doing - was due to her specifically saying she wanted me to "show up" and be vulnerable. I did what she asked, I showed up, and it basically called her bluff. So now I have more confidence in what I am doing and no worry of "but if I do that she'll do ______" because I know it is BS. I've finally accepted that she's going to do whatever she's going to do no matter what, and none of it is my fault.
