Trying to heal from WW - part 2

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Ok. Ace brace yourself because I am about to be brutally honest with you.

Had a few drinks with my dad last night and ended up messaging her the old nonsense about loving her,etc which i havent done in months and was a major setback but can keep trying to learn from my mistakes.

You have been here long enough to know this is very weak and needy behavior which is a complete turn off to her.

OnlyBent, im not sure but i believe if i could just see her again i could win her back.

So this is a competition between you and your friend?

After BD she basically said she doesn't want to video call etc. because she still finds me very attractive and doesn't want to fall for me again.

100% WW BS and you ate it up hook line and sinker.

Physical attraction was never an issue in our situation, that was the one part of our relationship that was always good and worked.

So what didn't work that she has cheated on you multiple times? It's either the dynamic of the relationship and/or she's a serial cheater.

I think if we spent some time together again it will make a big difference. That could just be a fools hope though.

Fools hope. I think your neediness would shine right through.

There were some bad times but i would rather be back in my marriage with its faults than be where i am now.

So you would rather be back in a marriage where you were cheated on multiple times in 6 years then learn to be alone, love and respect yourself and then have the world by the balls?

Look Ace I know I was rough on you but you really do not understand how you should consider yourself lucky this happened to you now and not years down the road when you had children. You STBXW was young when you met and maybe she can grow up someday in the distant future. If you haven't already pick up "How to be a 3% man" by Corey Wayne and read it 10-15 times until you understand the fundamentals. Also read "way of a Superior Man" by David Deida[/quote].