Thanks again for the wise words DnJ, it helps me to follow the path of enlightenment every day.
STBXH has been very friendly for the last 2 weeks. After his monster behavior during the divorce settlement of 2 weeks ago, he sent a message a few days later to say that he was sorry about his reaction and that he only wants what is best for everyone, but that not everyone has this with him…?
Since then he has been in touch almost every day, through messages or phone calls, usually concerning the divorce or the children, but he is very friendly towards me.
I am detached enough to handle it properly.
He did change his mind about selling the house. He now wants to buy it and is doing to utmost to get his loan. (don't understand why since he is living abroad, but I don't mind since the price he is paying me is very good and then I'm not in a hurry to have to leave the house)
Suddenly he also informed me about the fact he was seeing a therapist since this week. I replied, good for you, I thought you were going to figure everything out yourself, he replied that he sees now that it is better to seek help and that he has now done this. Hopefully for him he is telling the truth. This obviously doesn't affect me, but it would be a step forward for him.
I have a weird question. I have a feeling that he may have doubts about whether he wants to go ahead with the divorce. I do want to keep it going, though, because I am convinced he has a very, very long way to go.
How should I respond to that? I know this may not happen but I want to be prepared to be on the safe side.
I want to continue with the divorce (as said, financial security + peace of mind for children), but at the same time I also want to make it clear to him that I want to be there if he is working on himself. (but you cannot say that explicitly ... or they run again ... ;))
