I do like wayfarers idea of having a party on a different day. However if it is on her birthday sometimes grandparents and others put a emphasis on it being that day. If she gets a nap and you keep the second party low key I think she'll be able to handle it. She'll have a long life of multiple events post-D. I've witnessed this with my W's parents.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
