She's OUT! #7

[Mumin]

Thank you CW, I am protecting myself and my own time.
This whole thing is complex as I want to protect our dialogue around the kids.
This was my first real step since physical separation to also protect myself.

"I am not sure you understand how much you hurt me.

Definitely would not have included that

I guess not.

Though I wish to keep having a dialogue around the kids, talking/texting just you and I as if nothing has happen just wont work for me".

Not to nick pick but I would have used "doesn't work for me"

In my language this is actually closer to what I said.

(Bit more text but sort of like that).

How much more?

It was four sentences in total.

Anyway, I am glad I was clear on a boundary and I'll be glad if she sticks to it for a while.

Why do you care if she sticks to it?

This is a very good question LH! Thank you! Sure made me reflect and you are so right!
I dont care, its my boundary, I will protect it and what she does really shouldn't bother me.

Long-term setting this course is very good, she will know my position/boundary much better and I (yes the nice guy) will have an easier time defending/enforcing it.

You got to get stronger M

Please elaborate more specifically if you have time. Do you mean the part where I need to tell my boundary before protecting it?