One foot in front of the other

[Elbereth]

Thanks for the above. Good reminders of the fine differences in feeling and thinking and acting. I like your points a lot. They make sense and feel less 'victim' and more able minded.

Well, I didn't do well with avoiding R talk. H seems confused for the need for the agreement about funds he's spent and in trying to clarify, we got into things a bit. It's surprising that he feels so justified in his behavior and how being separated is supposed to be for me (somehow supposed to protect me from being hurt any more) when I don't want to fund him having another life outside of our MR. H tries to tell me that he will be fair and honest to me, and I had to point out that I don't trust a thing he tells me. He does want to just file D he says. I tried not to get too deep into it. It wasn't a screaming match, but it was more than I wanted to discuss. I did feel very detached. So maybe that is progress.

El