She's OUT! #7

[Mumin]

Thanks again everyone for your answers! MrB, Steve and Ovr I am very glad you have been on my thread.

I did end up sending something. Before I read these recent posts, but I am still glad I sent it.
As said yesterday I have never really told her I dont want to be friends and/or set any clear boundaries around "us" and she wasnt getting it.

I sent something to the effect of:
"I am not sure you understand how much you hurt me.
Though I wish to keep having a dialogue around the kids, talking/texting just you and I as if nothing has happen just wont work for me".
(Bit more text but sort of like that).

She responded with a lot of text, first a couple of sentences and then a lot more a few hours later.
First she sent the most formal piece of text to ever come out of her mouth:
"Given the circumstances I understand you have been treated in such a way that is wrong and without respect".

A few hours later was much softer.
"We should have talked more... bla bla"
"From now on I wont ask about general stuff or just pop by."
"I understand its not enough but from the bottom of my heart I am sorry for how I have hurt you."

She also sent (really the only important text)
"We shall of course continue to have a dialogue about the children. I will respect how you feel towards me".

So yeah I am glad I sent it, 2X4's are welcome if you see fit!
Anyway, I glad I was clear on a boundary and I'll be glad if she sticks to it for a while.
Long-term setting this course is very good, she will know my position/boundary much better and I (yes the nice guy) will have an easier time defending/enforcing it.