WW have no sense of boundaries.. They act on what they want or feel entitled to.
Look at it from a logical persons point of view. If i needed a screw driver i would go out and buy a set. They cost peanuts and are useful to have. Its a no brainer.
If i needed something like a tile cutter which i would never use again, thats different.. Would i ever ask my WW step dad to lend me his - not in a million years. I would rather buy my own or rent one.
Within a week of leaving, my WW asked to borrow a spade to do some gardening. I ignored, and got several s&&&y replies for ignoring.
BUT i'm glad i did ignore.
Since then she has asked me to look at her car (i'm very good with cars), and i told her to take it to a garage - so she put the guilt trip on me.. Again, selfish, WW mindset. She told me our children would be in the car and i was risking their lives ( in reality it was losing water and the radiator fans were constantly kicking in from what i could hear ) - I calmly replied withr "Well the children are with me for the next 3 days, so thats plenty of time for you to get it sorted"..
Always remember - She FIRED YOU as the husband. Give a WW an inch, she will take a mile - and some !!!
As for the good dialogue.. I've followed your sitch and your WW isnt the most stable of people. Just protect yourself and your children, as i dont believe WW will keep it "happy dialogue" once she loses more control.
This is the key in my opinion. The thinking here from the WW is "Oh he'd take me back anytime I want him to, so borrowing a screwdriver will be a piece of cake!" That is a double entendre! Piece of cake as in easy, and piece of cake as in having their cake and eat it too! Cake eating is the worst thing you can allow a WW to do. They will take you all the way to the bank eating cake if you allow them.
I love what you did here MrB. So many LBSs make excuses to keep acting as the SPOUSE of the WS/WAS. "But it is the car my kids will be in, I do not trust any other mechanic to work on the car." We see that thinking/behavior all the time. So good job, this is perfect and how LBSs should be dealing with their WAS!!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
