Hey LH and Ovr, thank you for quick replies!
There actually was a text on a channel we seldom use anymore... will let that one slide for now.

Regarding telling her, I really haven’t.
I have drifted it here a couple of times since I have considered it often but always resort to showing with actions or ignoring.
I have never told her I don’t want to be friends.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021