Yes, it is truly H’s loss. These people in crisis, so many missed years and events, which they will never get back in their pursuit of their own lost times.
My XW became the kids’ Mom in name only. And that is becoming lower case, and smaller and smaller print. Such a loss and waste. Such a troubled, tormented, and lost soul she is. Those with hurting and hidden trauma(s) of the past, sometimes loose the plot in a very major way. My goodness, from the women she was to present day is astounding.
You tried so hard to care, tame, and rehabilitate the broken beast. Do forgive instead.
It is definitely not your circus nor your monkeys.
You are asking the good questions of self. And finding such good answers. It is ok to remember H’s better self, his past light, while recognizing the change within him. I’m very proud of you. (((Hug)))
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
