Sorry you ended up stewing more than processing over the latest events and requisite email to your lawyer.
Originally Posted by Pax_luv
I wish I was more protected in this beanie issue. And I hate that I’m even saying that. Like how is this an actual issue???
Trying turn this on its head.
It is an issue. One you cannot control. So let go of the emotions and deal with it as business. The hating of it comes from expectations and one’s emotional investment being unmet. At this time, your hope and expectations that XH will go away if you put your foot down. He most likely will not.
He will go away once all the loose ends are tied up; more accurately you will. You will move forward and he will not exist rent-free in your mind.
Emotionally, it’s your ego. Let him go. You cannot make him see. Sometimes, one needs to stop arguing and just let them be wrong.
The old thinking pattern are hard to alter. We mistakenly mind read others and predict their reactions based upon our past experiences with different people. The mid-night bathroom run is a good example of how talking about it alleviated those nagging concerns of yours.
If being woken up mid-slumber is some sleep depriving issue, accommodations would be made. The actual root problem wouldn’t be being woken up, it’s not getting back to sleep. A siren, a dog barking, etc, all would awaken the suffer. Trundling down to the guest bath wouldn’t solve that.
Perhaps you can just let XH be wrong and not feel the same pull to his ingrained training. Let it go. Be free. No need to drag XH’s baggage around. Let him be wrong.
Hope you have a wonderful Sunday.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
