Words spoken in anger are easy to regret and hard to take back. Even if you're throwing caution to the wind because you don't want R anymore, D requires negotiation, and since you have kids she'll always be in your life. I would consider fewer words and more actions as DB usually recommends. Good luck!
You're right. And I am not being a complete a-hole, I'm just not holding back or being my usual peace-keeper. She can take it however she wants.
