Well. I can't really treat myself this weekend because I have to deal wit stbxw about our oldest in college. D21 wants to move into a luxury aprtment for her senior year. So D21 texts stbxw who just forwards to me. Now this should be the old paradigm, when we were married, where we were one household and every single decision gets kicked up to me. Now we should discuss and decide going forward who is going to pay for what.
So, to summarize, in the last 2 days stbxw is enabling D18 that she can go to a private out state art school to study writing, and D21 that she can live in a luxury aprtment in college while in the midst of a divorce while I am retired and stbxw is cutting her hours at work.
I know she is in a fog but stbxw gets to date 4 or 5 days a week, go away for the weekend with OM and leave everything else concerning everthing in this soon to be fractured family to me. Our settlement negotiations are going to be interesting because of her sense of entitlement.
I told my L that I wanted to file taxes "married filing separate" even though I would take a hit simply because I dont want to be associated with her and her irresponsibility. It was different when I was her husband and treated as such; I tolerated it because I was her husband and loved her. Now, she can pay for half, and she and OM can figure out between them how that is going to be accomplished. While I am not welcomng a D, this stuff is making the sh@t sandwhich a little more palatable.
Oh, and CW, I didn't give any good advice, I merely relayed things I have read on the board.
