Best friend for 27 years in MLC part 2

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I think you're going to need to detach mentally/emotionally and calmly talk to you daughter about what you have planned for and what you will provide for her college education moving forward.

Expensive, private art school is a luxury of our culture that not everyone even in America can afford. My W's family was rather wealthy and they elected to tell their daughters to earn a scholarship b/c they weren't going to pay for their daughter's college. The parents also forced my W and SIL to work very hard at softball and both did end up getting full rides. But that's just one mindset and plenty of people just elect to pay for school. I had academic scholarships but still had to get student loans for part of my education.

I hear many young people complaining that they didn't know anything when signing up for student loans. You can educate your daughters on the pros and cons there and you may or may not support her financially or otherwise. And you'll have to remind your daughter that her mother may have her own ideas and that is fine too, b/c what your daughter's mother chooses will be mostly out of your hands. So you have to leave them to make their own decisions, and that is scary for an 18 year old. She may choose this art school, she may come out with a heap of debt, you may decide to pay for it. Take time to weigh your options and how they will affect your daughter in the long term, don't be afraid to let her experience the consequence of her choices. How else do we learn if not for the natural consequence of our choices? Of course, everyone has their own parenting styles too.