Ok stbxw and D18 just went to go talk to an financial aid person for an expensive out of state art school. I was conspiculusly not invited despite the fact that I handle all the financial transactions in this house. D18 applied and was immediately accepted (99%) acceptance rate. I knew nothing about it because D18 used her mom's credit card to apply, thereby keeping me out of the loop (I paid all the other college app fees). There is so much going on behind my back, stbxw is totally checked out so when kids want something they ask her and its ok.
Our goal WAS to get both kids thru at least undergrad with no debt. We had money set aside in a college savings fund. That is still possible but its a stretch. Private school is not in the equation!!
Things ran smooth in our house when I was at least included in the decision making process. This is torture, with stbxw actually making decisions. Its bad enough that she is messing up my up my life, now she is destroying plans we set up for our kids. My kids are going to have a rude awakening when the money runs out.
