They get fixated on something and they won't let it go. Boy, do I remember those meltdowns over things that my xh had taken and then he swore up and down that I still had them. I can't help but think that they use these so called missing items as a way to validate how they feel and it continues to fuel their anger towards us. They truly lose the plot on some things.
I understand having to defend yourself and have to pay to do so. I went through the same thing many years ago and I am so ever thankful that my little nut is long gone and taken up with wife #3.
Please be very careful. There is no way to tell just how much anger is bubbling underneath all of that facade. Sometimes, they can't control themselves because the hatred and anger are so strong.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
