Trying to heal from WW

[Ace_32]

Thanks LH, i did tell her to send me the divorce papers and i said i will go through them on the weekend. Will do that, sign and send back. The ball is is her court and i have no control,the first part of the call felt like she was trying to see how my situation is and if things are good here. Definitely felt like a temp check, i told her that im trying to move on and i have accepted her decision.

As far as i know she is seeing a friend of mine, but neither of them admitted it. He wasnt my best friend but was a close friend for about 2 years that we both worked with. I basically wrote both of them off when i suspected it, and me and him will most likely have more than words if i ever see him again.

I dont know why i feel empathy, i know all she has been through and i wasn't always there for her the way i should have. I actually used to think i was a bit of a sociopath and i didnt think i felt empathy for other people, but maybe that is something people like her have made me believe about myself.

It may be guilt but i think its more that she doesnt want to deal with all the admin and consequences of her decisions, i honestly dont know if she can feel true remorse or guilt for her actions except for how it affects her life. Maybe thats a bit if a cynical view but i have hardly ever seen her show true remorse for her actions.

Thanks, i definitely feel less than i used to and its progress. Think i have finally let go of my sense of control, which i never had but i thought i did to an extent.