I am not detached, Pack19 part4

[Pack_19]

Sorry for the long post! But I really wish some of our non-married posters would read stories like this and realize that they've been given a gift of seeing who their SO is BEFORE they make a life-long commitment to them.

Hi all! Firstly LH thanks a lot for your comment, I know my happiness is not linked to a traditional family. As days go by, and W continues to behave the way she does, I see it more and more obvious.
I am no longer her safety net, there is a seed growing in my head and my heart, that I deserve better, that I will not tolerate what she is doing with our M and family. Yes we had issues, does that mean she gets to blame it all on me, destroy our life and run away with OM? No!

Steve, I can give you a list of red flags.
1. wedding story
2. yes she loves going out and dancing, and she used to drink a lot before we were on a long R. When we were dating, once I planed a weekend at the beach with her, she went out the night before with friends and did not show up Saturday morning. I spent the whole Saturday playing the PS and feeling like crap.
3. The day I gave her the engagement ring after a romantic walk in the Alcazar in Seville and italian dinner, she went to the wedding of one of her best friend's sister (a friend's SISTER!!!). The day after I took S7 (who back then was a baby) to a walk to the park. I should have asked her for the ring back and cancelled everything.
4. Guess the first thing she did after our S when we came to Seville? Build a super-single life with her support cousin, going out when I had the kids and (yes you guessed it) drinking again (after S2 was born she stopped all alcohol even with beer)

I have an amazing job and I am a rock physically now, seriously, what the hell am I doing chasing this? To answer to LH, it was the pressure with my children and giving them what is "best" what led me to all the pursue.

I try to never think about these red flags because I think focusing on the bad things is just the easy way out for me. I hope you all can continue to help me and understand me.

Thank you all, please keep posting. ((hugs)) Pack