Originally Posted by sandi2

Were the two of you just dating.......or were you living together? Big difference there. Your signature information says you've only been married five years, but together for ten. So, S7 was born before you were actually married, right?


Hi Sandi! Yes we were just dating but in what I thought was a serious R. S7 was born one year before we got married.

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First time I remember you ever saying anything about her cheating during that time. Did you react much the same way as when she left you, smothering & pressuring her? Did she have remorse for cheating on you and ask for forgiveness, or did she refuse to talk about it? I'm asking how it was resolved. Do you see any similar actions in your W currently, that you saw back when she cheated on you?


I reacted in the absolute opposite way. I was thinking, she does not deserve me and I am not going to tolerate this from anyone in my life. She did many things and gestures asking for forgiveness but I was not ready to listen, so we spent months being "together" but with a broken R. Then I left to study in the UK thinking I need to move on with my life and dreams and our R was really fixed when with the distance I guess we both missed each other. Then W got pregnant and it brought us closer. After a year in between the UK and Spain I asked her to come live with me, on tears she told me she would not move if we were not married. I told her it was not the time and I was not ready but I ended up giving into her accusations. During that year she also had a "good" male friend from university. I told her that was not tolerable and that she spent far too much talking to him, guess what happened? She told me I had jealousy issues and we had a big argument.

I dont know if she loved me or not, if she ever did or what is on her mind now. I dont want to focus on the bad things that have happened to us in the past. This is why I try not to analyze if she is a cheater or not and why she thinks being with OM is acceptable. Right now I just want to be focused on Pack and improving myself as a man.

Last edited by Pack_19; 03/02/21 10:23 AM.

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Me 29 W:29
M: 5yrs T:10yrs
S:6 yrs S:1 yr
BD: "I want a D" 08/09/19
Sep: 10/27/19