Ok so I have a different take. This is where your unpredictable behavior will frustrate your STBXH.
Are you puppy buddies who occasionally text, joke and exchange your life experiences or are you the stbxw who has been abused, cheated on etc. and value yourself too much to let him in your life?
If you are going to be the first then let him know. If you are going to be the latter then don’t let him know.
There in lies the crux...
The good person in me... wants to let him know...
The hurt person in me... say F it...
Do I work on personal growth and continue to be that good person inside of me OR do I let the hurt person win??? Regardless of how he has treated me - cheating, the on going lying. Its reflection on my character and not his right?
