I am really impressed with how you are handling this and how prepared you are the second go around. I am going to disagree with the consensus and say I don't have a problem with you doing it. If I am reading your sitch correct there is no sign of OM. You have a stake in the game because it will be a place your kids will be 50% of the time. It's all about attitude. If you are exuding confidence and detachment I see no problem.
Bottom line is go or don't go and it changes nothing right now. This is going to probably take years to play out.
